Initiation — The Courage to Try (With You Close By)

“You have a big job to do. You already carry the wisdom. Let’s help you remember it.”

One of the earliest signs of resilience isn’t independence. It’s initiation—the moment a child leans into something new with a mix of excitement and uncertainty. Taking first steps. Saying “hi.” Trying something tricky.

Initiation is the courage to begin. Children are naturally curious, yet fear, shame, or repeated failure can dim that spark. When trying feels risky, “not trying” becomes the safest plan. That’s why initiation is relational.

Trying Feels Brave When Someone Has Your Back

Initiation whispers, “I’ll try—as long as you stay close.” Small glances for reassurance, quick retreats, big emotions—these are signs that connection fuels bravery. Adults grow courage by offering predictable presence:

• “I’m right here.”
• “You've got this.”
• “Let’s try together.”

Your belief becomes their confidence.

Mistakes Are Part of the Curriculum

Every spill, loss, or crash becomes a classroom. Shame says, “You should have done it right.”  Resilience says, “You’re learning—let’s try together.” Children who see effort celebrated instead of perfection learned that trying again is strength.

School Readiness Begins With “I Can Try”

Before reading and math come the skills of approach:

• Trying new things
• Asking for help
• Persisting through challenge

Initiation is academic bravery. Belonging makes it possible. Simple rituals, high-fives, calming drop-offs, shared laughs, teach that new beginnings are safe.

Reflection for the Adults Who Guide

Sometimes, adults struggle with initiation too. Maybe you hesitate until you’re “ready.” Maybe perfectionism keeps you still. Children learn how to begin by watching how we do. Ask yourself:

• Where did I learn mistakes were dangerous?
• Who helped me try again?
• What brave start calls to me now?

Children borrow our courage until they grow their own.

Tiny Sparks Create Lifelong Light

Initiation thrives through encouragement, gentle failure, and adult presence. Children don’t need pushing into independence. They need someone who stays close until independence feels possible.

You have a big job to do. You already carry the wisdom. Let’s help you remember it.

Reflection Prompt:
Notice one moment today when a child looks to you before trying something new. How can you help them feel brave?